A major hold up for myself and many others is the simple definition of success.
He makes more money.
She’s a better mother.
They did better on the test.
They got promoted.
This is an envy mindset.
You will never have peace or any self-concept of success by looking to other people to define it. You and you alone will have to define what is worthy of you.
Sure, you’d like more money, a better car, a better house, or better people in your life. However, how they got it, what they did to get it, is not for you to know. You must discover your way there. If you wanted to navigate through the streets of Dallas, but I gave you a map of Baltimore, it would be useless. You blaze your own way, or as Lindsey Buckingham says, “Go your own way.”
The Wrong Questions
Otherwise, it makes you ask the wrong questions! You’ll say things like, “Why not me? or ”Why couldn’t I?” when you should be asking, “How can I?” And if you cannot discover the answer, go ask them! A friend of mine, Clif Gibson, was asked by a millionaire, “Are you a millionaire?” Clif said, “No.” The man asked, “Why not?”
Is this all about money? Of course not! Most people have the notion that money will make them better. Absolutely not! Money makes you more of what you are. If you’re an asshat, with money you will be a rich asshat.
There was a successful businessman, who, despite hanging around really good people, never let them influence him deeply.
He plotted and schemed.
He made a lot of money… 30 pieces of silver to be exact.
Remember, Judas was a financial success but was unhappy with himself. He sold out. He sold himself out, sold his friends out, and he sold the Lord out.
He failed because he didn’t have the belief that comes with good internal programming.
In theological terms, his faith was too small because his belief was too small. His belief was the result of the programming, what he chose to let into his mind, not being heaven-based.
In essence, his goals were far too small and short-term.
GOALS are simple. They just aren’t easy!
Figure out what you want, and then write it down.
- Don’t set your goals too low.
- Don’t join the easy crowd.
- Go where the demands are high.
- Don’t compromise – Don’t sell out!
Mark 8:36 says, “What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?”
People either live by hesitation or anticipation. Judas didn’t see things going the way he envisioned and reacted in fear.
So, what is your definition of success? Will you lock arms with others who are on the same path as yourself? You do this automatically, whether it’s on the path to destruction or success. You have to make a choice to turn and lock arms with others on the path of success, and that requires Social Handles.
Call to action: Define your idea of success.
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Launching a business?
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