The “Why”
So, what is this blog about or why am I writing this page? Or, what is the purpose of me spending time on this?
The answer is quite simple but expansive. When I was going through my depression, it bugged me that I felt there was not a single soul out there who felt like I did. This is all before the internet. And though this sounds really self-centered, that is one of the great issues with depression, it can make you feel alone, hopeless and stupid. (There is clinical jargon out there that describes this so to make you feel like you’re spending your money on someone who went to an Ivy League school, but to me it’s just vocabulary. I’d rather be relatable than affluent.) But, that’s my point! I don’t want anyone to feel alone. I’ve personally known patients who killed themselves in the hospital, on my shift! I’ve had friends kill themselves without giving a clue to anyone about their intentions. You just get a call early in the morning from someone who tells you your friend took their own life overnight. And my own sister died of alcoholism when her own husband didn’t know she was drinking.
I’ve had enough. I just have. I know I won’t fix the entire problem, I’m not saying I can, but I’ve got enough answers and to keep them to myself is a sin! And what I don’t know, we’ll find out together.
How do I intend to do this?
The Journey will include:
- How to successfully fail. Helping you manage setbacks, blowups, relapse in positive ways to position yourself for a successful restart. Help you understand and practice grace – forgiving yourself.
- Equipping you with practical applications for self-improvement and to develop your self-worth (realization – confidence – encouragement)
- Speaking up for yourself, being assertive.
- Teaching you to Love yourself better than you are loved.
Specific manner in which to attack issue?
Help you realize you already have worth – to discover your pre-existing worth; to bring about healing so you can move forward (out of the rut; out of the pit; get unstuck)
My “Voice” for this job can seem “abrasive” to some. But as I’ve said to some who chose to whine, “If you don’t like the feeling of my foot on your ass, get off the floor!” Tough love is still love. Had a doctor say to me once, “I will fight, cajole, and stand up to any obstacle to optimal health. To do less is not my job. I love people too much.”
So, if you want direction, if you want focus, you want an “outta left field” fresh approach? I’m your man.